Slim,
Do Jehovah's Witnesses now believe that all non-Witnesses will die at Armageddon? This is not clear. Since the goats change in 1995, Witnesses have promoted strongly the idea that Jesus will make the final judgement and that Witnesses cannot be sure who will be saved and who will not.
I've no doubt you are sincere in your attempts to defend WT. But in the early 1990s WT had a problem. Lots of 'worldly' people, especially in newly-'democratic' Eastern Europe, got very upset when JWs 'preached' they're all going to die unless they become a JW. Especially when these 'worldly' people were politicians responsible for registering new religions. So this hard-line doctrine started hurting them, both politically, and potentially, financially, in Russia, Greece, Georgia, Turkmenistan, Bulgaria, and not forgetting France (to save $28 million, virtually any doctrine becomes 'negotiable').
On the other hand, if WT stopped saying only JWs will survive Armageddon, then many JWs would wonder why should they bother being a JW. Which is a not unreasonable question.
So WT had to 'soften' their public position, while still keeping
JWs fearful thrall that they may not survive themselves. Thus the changes you described.